Top 10 Ways to be More Likable
Likability matters. Thereâs nothing bad that comes with being well-liked. It can be a boon for your social life and career. Most of us arenât as likable as we could be, but itâs an easy issue to address.
Everyone has everything they need to be highly likable. A little effort is all thatâs required.
Try these techniques to be more likable and attract more good things and people into your life:
- Smile. Everyone likes to smile and to see others smile. Even a baby can smile and respond to smiles from others. Do your best to put a smile on your face when you first see someone that day. Theyâll appreciate that you seem happy to see them.
- Think positive thoughts. Your thoughts affect your attitude and demeanor. If you think happy thoughts, youâll behave in a more pleasant way. Happy people are more enjoyable to be around, and happy people think positive thoughts.
- Avoid complaining. Most people donât care much about your problems. And no one likes hanging around negative people. If thereâs something bothering you, look for a solution. Itâs okay to have a conversation about a challenge in your life, but others donât want to listen to it all day long.
- Avoid gossiping. Gossip can be fun, but if you gossip, everyone knows it wonât be long until theyâre the subject of your gossiping. Gossip isnât nice or productive, so avoid partaking.
- Have a few hobbies. Likable people are interesting. If you have a hobby or two that you love, youâll be enthusiastic and more interesting. We love to be around people that enjoy their lives. What do you like to do? If youâre not spending some time doing it each week, why not?
- Be supportive. We love people that support us. What could you be doing to support the people in your life? Most of us could use someone in our corner. Be that person.
- Be interested. A general interest in others can go a long way. Ask someone how they spent their weekend. Ask for their opinion. Show an interest in their life. Imagine how you would want someone to show interest in your life and behave accordingly.
- Be a great listener. Hardly anyone does a good job of listening these days. Be the person that listens with full attention. It will do more for your popularity than you think.
- Be kind. Kindness counts. Spread kindness wherever you go and see what happens. How could you be 10% kinder to everyone you meet?
- Avoid doing the things that make you unlikable. Itâs not just the things you do that make you likable. Itâs the things you avoid doing, too. Watch what you say to others when your mood is less than great. Itâs very easy to hurt someoneâs feelings if youâre not careful.
- One of the best things you can do for yourself is to find out what people donât like about you. Spend some time trying to figure this out on your own. Then, ask a few people you trust and ask them. Youâll learn a lot.
How likable are you? How would your life be impacted if you were significantly more likable? Your social life and career can be limited by how much people enjoy your company. Likable people receive more opportunities in life.
Make an effort each day to be a positive presence in the lives of those around you. Try it for a month and take a look at the results of your effort.